Thoughts on my Passing
When I die
Why I feel so sad when someone I know passes on.
Why does the death of someone you know have such a devastating effect. It's
because part of your own life has passed; a connection you have permanently
lost, something you can never experience again. The severity of loss is
dependent on the quality and frequency of your contact with that person and
with your dependence on that person in all aspects of your daily life. It's
sad to know that you will never feel the warmth of whatever personal
relationship you had; a moment of warmth in your life; a relationship it
took a lifetime to build; a relationship impossible to find again because
you no longer have a lifetime to develop or experience it.
In the passing of an older family member, you lose more of your connection
with your childhood and your roots; special moments of your life that you no
longer have in common with anyone else; moments of memories you can no
longer jointly share.
In the passing of a child you lose a happier past and a large part of your
future.
In the passing of your Spouse, you lose a connection to almost an entire
lifetime.
In the passing of a friend you become lonelier.
No amount of consoling from anyone can make the pain of loss any easier
because no amount of consoling will replace that loss.
So when I die, do not feel bad for me. I'm merely joining what I have
previously lost.
Console yourself for what you have lost.
